our progress

 I need to create a post to document our progress. It will be a factual post on her moods throughout the day. none of my feelings.

21.9

when I told her. anger cos of betrayal. disbelief. sadness. investigative to find out all the truth


22.9

before cheyenne. sad. angry when she wanted more truth. it is all getting a bit blur to me which talk we had on which day. 

After cheyenne. dont remember. 

night after jiaen. didnt want to talk much. 

night before sleep. sad but accepting. hugged.


23.9

morning i went for my first session. felt calm.

during session, seeking truth. angry. 

during bisous walk, seeking truth, angry.

came back from her own outing before nic, quiet, kept her emotions in.



24.9

morning till 4pm. not talking. no sign of visible emotion. had her client come and go. not eating

evening,, seeking truth, angry

night, calm, accepting, forward looking, hugged


25.9

day, not talking. no sign of visible emotion, likely avoiding me to prevent the negative emotions from manifesting again



So many things have happened the past few days. it all went by like a whirlwind. Spent most of my days with her. thus no time to update here.

It is all a blur to me what happened when. but i can clearly remember what happened on a certain day.

26.9

morning truth seeking, disbelief. - left her for the library

divorce letter sent. 


met her in the evening. she was calm and seeking truth from me on my sincerity


she allowed more touch from me. softened her heart.


27.9

her session with alicia

wanted to work on the divorce letter

truth seeking. disbelief. anger

softened her heart throughout the day, let me in


28.9

truth seeking. disbelief. anger. less

softened her heart to let me in. willing to move forward

met with lawyers


29.9 - 1/10

truth seeking

trying to make sense of what is happening

softened her heart. wants to move forward

has open moments of doubt and trauma

other moments of happiness likely to drown the negative side as much as she can

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